Talking About Death Won’t Kill You
We hosted Talking About Death Won’t Kill You for three years in Ithaca. Think of it as an information fair for death and dying-related topics. Staff from local organizations came together to help you explore:
- advance directives: health care proxies & living wills
- accessing palliative care
- hospice care
- wills & trusts
- organ donation
- funeral planning
- green burial
In 2020, we hope to bring a version of this event to other towns in Tompkins County.
Update: Our first one was scheduled for April 25 in Brooktondale, but we are postponing it until it is safe to have public events again.
Ithaca Death Cafe
We support the quarterly Death Café here in Ithaca. “At a Death Café people drink tea, eat cake and discuss death. The aim is to increase awareness of death to help people make the most of their (finite) lives.”
When we have a date scheduled, we post it on the Death Cafe website.
Advance Directives Workshops
The workshops focus on the two types of advance directives that are not medical orders, the Health Care Proxy and a Living Will.
- A Health Care Proxy (also known as a durable power of attorney for health care) allows you to name another person to express your wishes and make health care decisions for you if you cannot speak for yourself. Everyone age 18 or older should have a Health Care Proxy named.
- A Living Will lets you state your wishes for end-of-life medical care in case you become unable to communicate your decisions.
We have two “flavors” of this workshop:
- It’s Not If, It’s When…
This introductory workshop on making informed decisions about end-of-life plans for yourself and others explores types of advance directives, including the Health Care Proxy form and Living Will; and the importance of completing your paperwork and sharing it with the right people.
- Advance Directives Working Session
This workshop is a working session where everyone can complete their Health Care Proxy and Living Will. This is for people who know they need to get their paperwork done, but just haven’t gotten around to it yet. People fill out forms and discuss considerations and challenges with the facilitators and with one another.
How to Be a Health Care Proxy
- Have you been asked to be someone’s health care proxy?
- Do you understand your person’s wishes and choices for end-of-life care?
- Do you understand your legal responsibilities as a proxy?
In this workshop, we explore what it means to serve as someone’s health care proxy.
We’re exploring a variety of new projects including a film viewing of the documentary “Living While Dying” with a discussion afterwards and a few different workshops:
- defining your own good death
- writing your own obituary